Livia Diam
I just bought the gift card yesterday, I've checked the balance on the Vanilla Visa website and it says I have the full amount still on my card. I've used Vanilla Visa all the time, this is the first time I had this problem. I'm poor and rarely able to buy anything nice for myself, I can't afford to let $25.00 go down the drain without some compensation. According to their website the only way I can get in touch with a rep. is by snail mail. Anybody have any suggestions?
Answer
did you register the card in your name and address on the Vanilla Visa gift card issuer
website thats the usuually cause for the card being declined
since the credit verifcation system -can not find a matching name with your name and adress
so it get declined
also you could these phone numbers (I got from getahuman.com)
Vanilla Gift Card phone number for customer service
[Vanilla Gift Card phone number - 800-652-9174] 800-652-9174
phone number
Get a human Dial 5113 then valid throug
h number, then verification on the back #2, then #4
Hours 24 hours, 7 days CHANGE
or
800-571-1376
phone number
Get a human Hit #4, then #3
Hours 24 hours, 7 days CHANGE
did you register the card in your name and address on the Vanilla Visa gift card issuer
website thats the usuually cause for the card being declined
since the credit verifcation system -can not find a matching name with your name and adress
so it get declined
also you could these phone numbers (I got from getahuman.com)
Vanilla Gift Card phone number for customer service
[Vanilla Gift Card phone number - 800-652-9174] 800-652-9174
phone number
Get a human Dial 5113 then valid throug
h number, then verification on the back #2, then #4
Hours 24 hours, 7 days CHANGE
or
800-571-1376
phone number
Get a human Hit #4, then #3
Hours 24 hours, 7 days CHANGE
Extravagant gifting. Should I keep the gift or respectfully decline? HELP ME!?
Jessa
My friend, Mark, took me out to dinner Tuesday night. We are just friends, but there are hints that he would like to be more; such as, he wont let me pay for anything even though I always try, he always picks me up, and he never invites anyone else to join us even though most of my friends are much closer to him than I. Anyway, as our dinner is coming to a close, he tells me that he has a Christmas gift for me. A holiday gift hadn’t even crossed my mind... Sure, we’ve gone out for coffee once, and we’ve gone out to dinner for the purpose of celebrating both of our birthdays as friends, but that is the extent of our history. This is, also, our senior year in college, meaning that I have very limited gifting funds to go around and we only just met this semester. I told Mark that he was very sweet to have thought of me, but that he shouldn’t have. He then puts two boxes on the table. To my astonishment, there on the table in a white apple box sat a pink iPod Nano along side another box for a watchband to secure the Nano as a smart watch. I was floored. He had it all ready, and asked me to put it on. He then went on to inform me that he put some music on it that he thought that I would enjoy. He also took the time to program in the number of the US consulate in Hong Kong should there be an emergency during my travels (I’m visiting a friend who lives in HK over winter break). Now, there is something else you need to know about Mark. He comes from a VERY wealthy family, which, I think, has given him a bad grasp on money. However, he did not get anyone else anything as far as I know.
I did accept the gift. It didn’t even occur to me that I should decline, but some friends have implied a mistake on my part. What should I do? I could offer to reimburse him, while respectfully noting my discomfort with the extravagance of the gift or should I simply not say anything. I would appreciate some impute, please!
Answer
This is a tough one. If you are convinced that you're not interested in him, then you should have declined the gift when he gave it to you. You can't change the past, so I can think of two options:
1. If you haven't used the iPod--i.e., if he can still return it to the store, then give it back and say something like, "you are such a generous friend (and emphasize "friend"), but I can't accept this because it's too extravagant."
2. Get him something. But if you do this, he may take it as a sign that your relationship is closer than you want.
The reason you feel uncomfortable with his generosity is that you correctly understand that it obliges you to him. So if he does eventually make a move, he may feel that you owe him something or that you took advantage if you don't date him... Or you may feel like you have to date him. Even if he freely chose to give you things. Either way, the situation won't be good.
Whether you want a future with this guy or not, I think it is time to put the brakes on the gifts. You don't want to end up in a situation where you feel like he is giving you a lot. That kind of imbalance never ends well, no matter how nice are the people involved. Ask him to eat at cheaper places with you or to go out less often. It would be OK for him to contribute a little more if he wants to do something expensive, but you don't want him paying all the time. Good luck.
This is a tough one. If you are convinced that you're not interested in him, then you should have declined the gift when he gave it to you. You can't change the past, so I can think of two options:
1. If you haven't used the iPod--i.e., if he can still return it to the store, then give it back and say something like, "you are such a generous friend (and emphasize "friend"), but I can't accept this because it's too extravagant."
2. Get him something. But if you do this, he may take it as a sign that your relationship is closer than you want.
The reason you feel uncomfortable with his generosity is that you correctly understand that it obliges you to him. So if he does eventually make a move, he may feel that you owe him something or that you took advantage if you don't date him... Or you may feel like you have to date him. Even if he freely chose to give you things. Either way, the situation won't be good.
Whether you want a future with this guy or not, I think it is time to put the brakes on the gifts. You don't want to end up in a situation where you feel like he is giving you a lot. That kind of imbalance never ends well, no matter how nice are the people involved. Ask him to eat at cheaper places with you or to go out less often. It would be OK for him to contribute a little more if he wants to do something expensive, but you don't want him paying all the time. Good luck.
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