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I can't afford more than $400 for christmas gifts but the recipient is 17 and is headed to college soon. Maybe an inexpensive tablet, or something else really cool for a soon to be college student. It doesn't have to be college oriented, though. Thanks!
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There are a million and 1 things you can get for under $400 and a few that will actually benefit your son in college. Look at refurbished iPads, a used (with warranty) laptop, a cell phone... There's lots of ways to spend $400!
There are a million and 1 things you can get for under $400 and a few that will actually benefit your son in college. Look at refurbished iPads, a used (with warranty) laptop, a cell phone... There's lots of ways to spend $400!
Birthday gift from Hubby?
Ok I love my Hubby from the bottom of my heart, but this man has not one romantic bone in his body-ha. Both of our Birthdays are coming up next week and I will be turning 40 and him 42. I told him he could go down and get that television he has been wanting for his office. Now mind you we are kinda on a budget and we agreed on no more than 400 for that telvision. Well he came home with this huge 42 inch falt screen that cost over $800 along with some other goodies- earphones, games, etc. Ok I didn't make a deal out of it at all. I never do and that may be my problem. I am the wife that stays at home and homeschools our one Daughter, I never ask him to lift a finger around the house, I do all the cooking and shopping, I even so all the car stuff and take out the trash and often you will find me lifting heavy things which I am not suppose to because of my back injury, but I get tired of asking him hundred times and him forgetting. Now mind you he works hard, but it is a desk job. I know he can get stressed so I never ask of anything of him. I have gone without descent clothes for so long- etc trying to make sure our Daughter gets things and he does first and even food I often don't get to choose what I want. He always gets pizza. Ok so enough of that.
He bought me this little 4 pack of this water that I have been wanting to try. It was 4 dollars. He kept reminding me over and over and hinting that was part of my Birthday gift. Huh? I was a little taken back. I guess I should be so lucky to get anything.
He really doesn't think about things like this. I buy all the gifts for everyone in the family on both sides. Maybe he was never taught better. Who knows. I mentioned something once and he got upset. Like how dare I. I can't tell you how many Holidays have gone by that I have gotten nothing- Christmas is expecially embarassing when my Daughter doesn't understand why there are all these gifts under the tree for Daddy and her and nothing for me. How do I explain it? Like Momma doesn't deserve anything.
I really hate to complain because I feel very fortunate to be able to be at home with our Daughter ands take care of her and him. I don't know. Sometimes I want to cry about it, but then again feel like maybe it isn't such a big deal.
I could go down and buy myself something, but just doing it for the heck of it just seems so weird.
Any advice. What if your Husband always forgot about you?
True I guess I just have to keep telling him each time and maybe tell him how selfish he is being.
I forgot to add that we have been together for 20 years and married 17 years. Everything is great in our marriage except this area. He just doesn't get it. Oh and by the way I never go and get my hair done fancy- $15 cut if I am lucky, no nails, don't wear makeup, no jewelry, no fancy car, no fancy clothes- jeans and tees or shorts and flip flops, and really nothing else fancy or treat myself.
To Rabbit- I almost feel this way. It is so hard for me because I feel guilty if I did, but I am thinking it might be good for him to not get something.
It isn't really the gift, but the thought. There is like no thought behind anything anytime.
I guess I need to get that backbone. Maybe I will just have to start buying myself stuff if he won't. I have tried in the past, but I hated the look so much on his face I could not bare to bring it up again.
Yes I should have him trained by now-haha. I just am always afraid of being the nagging wife. I think I will have to just start doing it slowly like the one poster said. Start making some changes myself. I can't expect him to change and believe me I love him dearly. Just thought I would get some ideas here on what some of you do with your own Husbands.
I go out and get the food and bring it home. We don't eat in restaurants because he hates it. So off I go to buy usually what he and my Daughter like and sometimes am able to afford a little something for me.
Any- that is what my Husband said Good deal-hahaha. It is a nice television and even my Daughter has been enjoying it too. I guess one good thing is he is not playing his XBox on the other tv all the time. Now that was painful-haha. I guess that in a way is my Gift.
Jude- love your response. Luckily my Daughter has him wrapped around her little finger. She will be the next to get a television for her room next payday. She is Daddy's little precious Girl. Mind you she is very good.
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Wow there are so many ways I'd go with this...
1. "So, we are going out and purchasing $800 birthday gifts for ourselves now? Cool, I've been wanting this ring over at Kay Jewelers and will head over there tomorrow." The ring would be returned when the tv was returned.
2. "I assume that it's okay for me to purchase $4 worth of water for your next gift. After all we are not materialistic or anything of that nature."
3. In front of everyone you know. "Y'all have got to see this lovely set of $4 water Joe got me for my birthday after I get finished showing y'all the $800 tv he got for himself!"
4. Get a backbone and quit buying him gifts. It sounds like he has no problem looking out for himself while ignoring your feelings.
5. Return the tv and place $4 water with a bow in it's place and look forwards to the fight, after all 20 years of pent up resentment should give you the edge to win.
Seriously, I think it's sad that you haven't stood up for yourself and that you are so intimidated by the typical bully tatic of "how dare you." Everyone has the right and responsibility to demand to be treated fairly and with respect by their own spouse. Apparently your husband doesn't think so and you've accepted it. I hope you don't let him get away with it for another 20 years and end up, resentful, bitter, and watching your daughter receive the same treatment from her husband.
Wow there are so many ways I'd go with this...
1. "So, we are going out and purchasing $800 birthday gifts for ourselves now? Cool, I've been wanting this ring over at Kay Jewelers and will head over there tomorrow." The ring would be returned when the tv was returned.
2. "I assume that it's okay for me to purchase $4 worth of water for your next gift. After all we are not materialistic or anything of that nature."
3. In front of everyone you know. "Y'all have got to see this lovely set of $4 water Joe got me for my birthday after I get finished showing y'all the $800 tv he got for himself!"
4. Get a backbone and quit buying him gifts. It sounds like he has no problem looking out for himself while ignoring your feelings.
5. Return the tv and place $4 water with a bow in it's place and look forwards to the fight, after all 20 years of pent up resentment should give you the edge to win.
Seriously, I think it's sad that you haven't stood up for yourself and that you are so intimidated by the typical bully tatic of "how dare you." Everyone has the right and responsibility to demand to be treated fairly and with respect by their own spouse. Apparently your husband doesn't think so and you've accepted it. I hope you don't let him get away with it for another 20 years and end up, resentful, bitter, and watching your daughter receive the same treatment from her husband.
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